You Don't Have to be the Smoothest Guy Ever...

Whats goin on fellas? How are you all doing? Me, I'm a ball of sunshine and bunny rabbits, thanks for asking, lol. Seriously though, I'm doing pretty good. Dreading going to work because as we all know, its quite often our employ does not match our personal tastes(in other words, we hate our jobs). But I'm still cool... as always.

And thats somewhat my point. Always be cool. In my line of (other)work, I meet plenty of women(some attractive but some, well... you know), and one thing I've seen constantly, over years and years, is that women will eat a guy alive if he's not cool.

And no I'm not talking about Brad Pitt in Fight Club cool or Tom Cruise in Top Gun smooth(or rather arrogantly charming), I'm simply referring to being at ease. The same way women demolish a nervous stuttering nervous guy, is the same way they appreciate and are attracted to a guy that is completely at ease and makes her feel at ease, even when you don't know each other.

But the truth is, its not really about making her feel at ease. Its about you being comfortable. Comfortable approaching, conversating, laughing, joking, smiling, teasing, basically interacting. Its not necessarily the acts themselves. Any drunk loser can open a girl, laugh and joke play... but he can also look like a chump doing it. Its more HOW you do it.

See, women aren't like men. When men talk to women, they tend take what women say at face value... they don't look much deeper than specific "what she says and does." The not so bright guys anyway. But when women talk to men, the look for EVERY SINGLE THING about you... through WHY you do and say what you do and HOW you do those things.

So when you walk up to a girl all nervous and shy and stumble over your words and apologize for bothering her and forget what you were saying and drool and tell her you think she's hot and you'll leave now and never bother her again(all of this with as little confidence and comfort as humanly possible), she might turn and say to her friends, "Awww that was so cute how he did that. That was really sweet how he was so nervous."

You'd think that means she thought you were sweet for doing all that. But again, that would be taking what she says at face value only and not looking at things how women see it. I'll give you some insight on girl code. When you did all that, this is how she sees you...

-Oh, no, please dont let him be looking at me. Oh no, he's walking over here.- She turns and smiles to at least be polite.

You whimper and stumble over your words and somehow get out "hi, you're sexy" or its equivalent while also managing to apologize for bothering her which you think is polite and also that you'll never bother her again which you think she thinks is cute because you're nervous.

And she's thinking to herself -he's so nervous. He must never have seen a girl before. I bet he's never even had sex. Its so cute that he's trying to talk though... cute and SAD. God how I feel sorry for him. Let me at least smile... its the most action he'll ever get. I bet his mother neglected him as a child, and since he never had many friends or a strong father figure, he's struggled to just keep it together. Oh, look, he says he'll never bother me again, THANK GOD. Why is he tiptoeing away? I wish he would turn and run... so I can. LMAO, he almost tripped over that guy. So sad. Man am I glad thats over!-

Then she turns to her girls, "Awww that was so cute how he did that. That was really sweet how he was so nervous."

And the next time they bring you up, everyone falls on the floor laughing. You were their comic relief.

And yeah, maybe that was a little extreme, but I kid you not, that is how women look at what you do and draw all kinds of conclusions from ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. You were a little nervous and she got ALL OF THAT plus laughs from you.

So... imagine had you walked up to her completely at ease, not a hint of nervousness and just said, "Hi, you're pretty cute." And stood there waiting for her to start a conversation.

You wouldn't even have to do it with Brad Pitt style confidence. If a woman looks at a little bit of nervousness and draws those crazy conclusions FROM NOTHING, how do you think she'd look at you for approaching her the other way?

She wont know what to think. Is he a player? Is he rich? Is he a crazy? Whats the deal with him? At the very least, she'll talk to you for twenty seconds on intrigue alone, JUST TO HAVE MORE MATERIAL TO MAKE HER INSIGHTS. And if you never give her anything to make any bad judgments about you, because you're never nervous, never stumble, always at ease, you're ten times ahead of the first guy by doing nothing but being comfortable.

So put it together... BE FREAKING COMFORTABLE. Its that simple.

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Being successful with women is not about the lines you recite or the moves you make. Any loser can trick a woman into sleeping with him. That doesnt keep him from being a loser.

Its about who you are and where your focus is, not what you do. If youre comfortable with yourself, comfortable with women, and comfortable with being sexual, you ARE the kind of guy that is successful with women.

Where Great Game Begins

Well, you're new to this. There is so much stuff for you to learn, so many things for you to draw from.

Where do you start? Well, yeah you gotta read this stuff and yeah, you gotta get some field experience. Other than that, what do you do? For one, you gotta learn how think for yourself, experiment for yourself, make decisions for yourself, and then take advice where you need it. This is how you learn to be a leader. And honestly, women dont want a man that CAN'T lead. But doing those things doesnt only apply to women, but to mASF and life in general. So, back to where you need to start.

#1 and this is most important. Get off the computer and get in the field. Sounds funny when I say it cuz im typing to you on a computer right now, I've even laid a few girls from you're various internet social gathering places. And thats exactly why Im telling you if you cant do it in real life, you definitely have no chance "sarging" online. Trust me, its actually the hardest way to get a girl, I promise(other than possibly in a lesbian bar). Especially when you have 0 field experience to draw from.

Now that I got that out of the way, let me tell you what most guys that are great with women, and this includes naturals and pua's alike, have in common: they're comfortable with women. This is where you want to start at. Forget about eliciting values, trance words, DHV's, routine stacks, and most anything else for awhile. You need to go out and learn to talk to women (this includes opening but at the same time dont focus solely on how to open).

You need to get comfortable talking to women that you dont know well or at all in order to make it as easy as possible to seduce them. But since that doesnt happen over night, you just need to learn how to just open you're mouth and say anything. Learn how to have a normal "non-seducing" conversation. Learn how to be social. Learn how to be cool around people in general. If you can manage this while learning some basic mASF techniques, you'll have an edge that most new guys, and even some guys who've been here a year, dont have.

http://gunwitch.fastseduction.com/

This is the link to Gunwitch Method. It costs nothing but the time it takes to read it. If where you are in learning how to meet women could be considered a baby, then GWM should almost be you're bottle. And it might not completely be for you, but its an easy way to start to get a natural feel for what you're doing. I would also say pay close attention to sexual state in the book and learn how to maintain that on a constant basis.

Another way to naturally attract women in your life is to actually have something going for yourself. If you're poor like me, get off your ass and get a job, or a better job. If you're a poor college student like me, find a way to make some money on the side when you have time on top of getting a PT job, or get girls to take care of you or whatever.

Dont have a car? Save up as much money as you can to get one. Live at home? Work towards moving out. Look for roomates, save up a lil bit of money every week. Maybe even, and it may sound horrible, get an income based apartment till you can get on your feet.

Start lifting weights. Find you a nice 30-40 minute routine you can run through 3 days a week. Start eating healthier. Lose or gain weight to get a better physique. Learn how to play guitar or piano, or even sing, so theres something interesting in youre life other than school work and girls. Even though theres not much more interesting in my life than school work and girls, I dont have the same problems you have, so dont argue, lol.

If you can't dress, spend some money on some nice clothes and shoes. Dont care how you get it, even if its only a piece a week. Get you a nice shave, great haircut, nice cologne. Get you some friends that are great with women, who like to go out, and who are popular, even if they only fit one of those descriptions. One player friend, one party friend, and one cool social friend is enough to learn how to apply each of those qualities to yourself.

Get rid of your loser/girless/average frustrated chump/virgin-not-by-choice friends at least until you're independant enough to do this stuff on youre own regardless of whether or not the encourage or discourage you. Start finding things about yourself that you're good at or are interesting. Learn how to talk about that stuff with other people without being a brag/ass about it.

And defintely learn how to relax. Dont put so much into seeing success immediately and focus more on simply improving, whether it be a little bit at a time or making giant strides.

Everything I said is hard work, sure. But its better than wasting youre life away on the computer, never improving, and wonder why you never get a girl.

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Being successful with women is not about the lines you recite or the moves you make. Any loser can trick a woman into sleeping with him. That doesnt keep him from being a loser.

Its about who you are and where your focus is, not what you do. If youre comfortable with yourself, comfortable with women, and comfortable with being sexual, you ARE the kind of guy that is successful with women.

NVP