Basics: How much C&F is too much?

Calibration from/and experience will tell you when too much is too much and you don't want to overdo the funny part or the cocky part. What makes it so difficult to perfect it is necessary to have the most complicated element of PU mastered - Balance.

For one, if you are using C&F as a technique, it becomes alot more complicated because you are displaying personality traits of someone that you are not normally accustomed to being. This is somehwere around the area of congruency. You shouldn't seem like you're trying too hard, or just throwing out lines, you want to seem natural and smooth about everything, which usually means cutting out alot of C&F. Don't let that be the standard that you're game is judged by if the rest of your personality is not congruent with you're techniques. A little bit of C&F is fine. A little bit more than that is probably all you need. And there is a thin line between all you need and way too much. Again, field experience and social calibration will make that line much clearer and allow you to find a better balance.

If you are a C&F» person, being that its not some lines you read on the computer or some explanation of a technique that you are implementing, then its usually much simpler and way easier to calibrate. When its just simply the way you interact with girls, its more or less just not overdoing the cocky part. Just keep it about 40% cocky, 60% funny and use it at will. And when it (and I use this term loosely) FEELS right, just ease up a lil bit to let the girl ACTUALLY connect to you. Other than that, its not too complicated.

Delivery, tonality, and body language are definitely important. But its not something you just have to focus on, it usually fixes itself with field experience and internalizing a few helpful beliefs(such as its normal for women to be attracted to you, and you're comfortable in sexual situations or with women in general).

The funniest thing about C&F is that while it seems to be a tool for breaking rapport and building attraction, it really cements solid rapport. Gunwitch has a term for this, its called rapport assumption. Regardless of whether or not the two of you have an actual rapport, its acting AS IF you alread did or as if she's seeking it. Having a C&F personality and interacting with a chick like that isnt something normal people do. They do that after having a friendship or being in some form of relationship for awhile when the two people are comfortable with each other and this behavior is acceptable.

You skip all that and just assume the behavior is already acceptable and act as if the connection is already there. And after a while, she takes on this frame and you've built rapport without seeking it. Then you move on to the "I feel like I've always known you" or "I barely know you, but I feel so close to you" kind of thing.

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Being successful with women is not about the lines you recite or the moves you make. Any loser can trick a woman into sleeping with him. That doesn't keep him from being a loser.

Its about who you are and where your focus is, not what you do. If you're comfortable with yourself, comfortable with women, and comfortable with being sexual, you ARE the kind of guy that is successful with women.

NVP